The Truth Is Out There: The Biggest Conspiracies of All Time

The world is full of intricate conspiracies meant to dupe the average person, at least according to some people. From Area 51 to the JFK assassination, conspiracy theorists have explanations for everything. Since my current book is a suspense/thriller dealing with a true conspiracy in the health care industry, I decided to take a look at some of the most enduring conspiracy theories and those with the biggest followings. Here are the top 10. Continue reading

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Introducing my Alter Ego

After six months away, I’m finally returning to this blog. Aren’t you excited? :-) For the last several months I’ve been working on writing a romance novella entitled “Pursuit of a Kiss,” which will be available for purchase next week under my new pen name Lola Drake.

Why the new split personality? You might know this already, but in case you don’t it’s actually something many authors do when they write in different genres. This way their readers know what to expect. So for instance, once my Ghana travel memoir is published, readers looking for a steamy romance won’t buy it and be disappointed – and vice versa.

Because I now have my alter ego Lola Drake, and she needs her own blog as well, I’m going to attempt to make each blog somewhat more subject specific instead of discussing whatever pops into my head each week. Since Lola is the author of romances, all the dating/love/sex stuff will now be on her blog. If those are the entries that interest you more, please check out her website or like her on Facebook to get updates when a new blog is posted.

As for this blog, I’m going to do more on travel, writing, and in all honesty probably anything else that pops into my head that isn’t related to dating/relationships/sex. I’ll try to narrow that down a bit more in the coming weeks.

Thank you to all of you who used to follow this blog. I hope you’ll do so again now that it’s back. And if you prefer to follow Lola Drake instead, well, I’ll try not to get jealous of her. ;-)

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Can Love Grow?

While the source of this quote may surprise you, I think what it says is very true: “Falling in love and having a relationship are two different things.” – Keanu Reeves

I’ve had lots of conversations with people about that elusive “spark.” Do you think it has to be there on the very first date or in that first kiss? Or can that spark develop over time? Continue reading

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10 Common Online Dating Mistakes (and How to Fix Them)

Have you decided to give the wonderful world of online dating a try? Or have you been trying for a while without any success? After scouring the Internet to find the biggest online dating turn-offs, here are 10 common ones that came up on several lists:

  1. Let’s face it, your photo is one of the most important aspects of your online dating profile. So why would you ever post a photo that’s out of focus? Three other crucial rules for your photo: Continue reading
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Is Sex Addiction a Real Thing?

The psychiatric community itself can’t seem to answer that question. Sex addiction is not yet an official disease in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). Yet rehab centers now find themselves filled with self-proclaimed sex addicts, especially in the wake of Tiger Woods very public declaration of his own addiction. Continue reading

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Excerpts from upcoming Ghana travel memoir

I’ve been busy working on a new romance novella this week so I haven’t had a chance to research a new blog topic. Instead, I’ve decided to share two excerpts from my upcoming travel memoir. The title still needs to be determined, so if you’d like to help me with that please see my previous blog post “Title for my Book.”

First, here’s the beginning of the book:

“If you’re going through hell, keep going.”
-Winston Churchill

I realize running off to Africa isn’t the usual response to a broken heart, but it made perfect sense to me at the time. You see, I’d had an epiphany: quitting a man is like quitting smoking. You may know you should quit, you may even know it’s what’s best for you, but until you actually want to stop you never will. I personally found quitting smoking far easier than quitting James.  Continue reading

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Are You Genetically Programmed to Cheat?

Two different genes in your DNA may play a role in whether or not you stay faithful: a section of the vasopressin receptor known as RS3 334 and the DRD4 gene. Does that mean, theoretically, you could get your partner genetically tested to find out if (s)he will stay faithful? Continue reading

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Ugly People Need Not Apply…

I started out this week writing about online dating turn-offs (and for those of you who requested this topic I will cover it soon). But while doing research on the biggest online turn-offs, I came across this story and felt compelled to write about it. is an online dating site strictly for beautiful people, as determined by the site’s creators. But this past June the site was attacked by a computer virus that let in 30,000 new members who (gasp!) weren’t beautiful enough. So, at a cost of $100,000, the site’s operators dumped those new members. But they did “set up counselors to help the newly rejected people to cope with their unattractiveness.” Continue reading

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Does Your Sexual Experience Affect Your Relationships?

A new movie is coming out at the end of this month called What’s Your Number, in which Anna Faris wonders how many sexual partners is too many. The plot of the movie kicks off when her friend tells her, “98% of women who have been with 20 or more lovers can’t find a husband.” Whether or not that’s actually true, I couldn’t determine with Internet research.

But does your sexual number matter? Are you judged by it? Yes, it increases your risk for both STDs and pregnancy, but does it affect relationships? Continue reading

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Different Flirting Styles – At Home and Around the World

Before the holiday weekend I’d spent a few weeks not feeling well without anything exciting happening, so I wondered what on earth I could write about today. Then something happened during my visit to the doctor. I had to go to the lab for a couple of tests, and while I’m there the guy checking people in started hitting on me! I politely chatted with him for a bit, and then he asked if I wanted to go grab a cup of coffee. I replied, “Um, I’m sick, that’s why I’m here, so I think I’m just going to go home.”

Now this was a decent looking guy who I’m sure could get women, and I was dressed in ripped jeans, a ragged t-shirt I’ve had since college, my hair unwashed, and no makeup whatsoever. I don’t get it.

But it made me start thinking about flirtation styles, especially cultural differences among men and women around the world. Continue reading

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