Comments for The Road Not (Yet) Taken http://laurabhorwitz.com/roadnottaken There's no better way to get some perspective than to change the view Tue, 03 Apr 2012 16:01:09 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 Comment on Friends with Benefits: Does It Ever Work? by Anonymous http://laurabhorwitz.com/roadnottaken/2011/06/06/friends-with-benefits-does-it-ever-work/#comment-354 Anonymous Tue, 03 Apr 2012 16:01:09 +0000 http://laurabhorwitz.com/roadnottaken/?p=48#comment-354 I am in a so called FWB relationship, however the "I love you" has come out more than once from both of us, so is it really FWB or more than that? How do you really know? I am in a so called FWB relationship, however the “I love you” has come out more than once from both of us, so is it really FWB or more than that? How do you really know?

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Comment on Can Love Grow? by Katie http://laurabhorwitz.com/roadnottaken/2011/12/06/can-love-grow/#comment-313 Katie Mon, 05 Mar 2012 17:03:27 +0000 http://laurabhorwitz.com/roadnottaken/?p=111#comment-313 I love this question!!! Let me ruminate. I love this question!!! Let me ruminate.

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Comment on Can Love Grow? by Ken http://laurabhorwitz.com/roadnottaken/2011/12/06/can-love-grow/#comment-81 Ken Wed, 07 Dec 2011 04:37:21 +0000 http://laurabhorwitz.com/roadnottaken/?p=111#comment-81 Wow. Could you come up with a more difficult question? I've been married 16 years and I have to work just as hard on it today as I did with I was dating my wife in college. Yes, there is an answer to creating a lasting relationship. Yes, you need some early spark. And yes, there's always someone out there better, spark or no. I suppose the answer to all the questions is C. All of the above. It difficult, frustrating; requires more patience and compromise than most are will to give up, sometime to the point where you want to pull your hair out. But at the same time it's immensely rewarding and you can't imagine sharing the years with anyone else. Publishing your first novel may indeed be easier than finding the perfect relationship. Wow. Could you come up with a more difficult question? I’ve been married 16 years and I have to work just as hard on it today as I did with I was dating my wife in college. Yes, there is an answer to creating a lasting relationship. Yes, you need some early spark. And yes, there’s always someone out there better, spark or no. I suppose the answer to all the questions is C. All of the above. It difficult, frustrating; requires more patience and compromise than most are will to give up, sometime to the point where you want to pull your hair out. But at the same time it’s immensely rewarding and you can’t imagine sharing the years with anyone else. Publishing your first novel may indeed be easier than finding the perfect relationship.

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Comment on Excerpts from upcoming Ghana travel memoir by Evey Horwich http://laurabhorwitz.com/roadnottaken/2011/10/18/excerpts-from-upcoming-ghana-travel-memoir/#comment-54 Evey Horwich Tue, 18 Oct 2011 19:10:56 +0000 http://laurabhorwitz.com/roadnottaken/?p=103#comment-54 Laura, I also do not normally read memoirs as well. For the past month, I've been in my very first writing class, so my instinct now is to read memoirs and vignettes ( which is what we concentrate on!) and I loved yours...so engaging, I feel as though I am in Ghana, and can also vividly recall the emotions you expressed. I am always looking for my own "Auntie Comfort". I may crate her to keep in mind! Thanks for sharing...and I so appreciate Gloria for sending it to me! I well remember that little blonde girl playing outside of Winberies, and we all kept our eyes on her as we "grown-ups" were eating dinner and chatting. I look forward to reading more of your wonderful descriptions! Laura,

I also do not normally read memoirs as well. For the past month, I’ve been in my very first writing class, so my instinct now is to read memoirs and vignettes ( which is what we concentrate on!) and I loved yours…so engaging, I feel as though I am in Ghana, and can also vividly recall the emotions you expressed. I am always looking for my own “Auntie Comfort”. I may crate her to keep in mind!

Thanks for sharing…and I so appreciate Gloria for sending it to me!

I well remember that little blonde girl playing outside of Winberies, and we all kept our eyes on her as we “grown-ups” were eating dinner and chatting.

I look forward to reading more of your wonderful descriptions!

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Comment on Excerpts from upcoming Ghana travel memoir by Seleste deLaney http://laurabhorwitz.com/roadnottaken/2011/10/18/excerpts-from-upcoming-ghana-travel-memoir/#comment-53 Seleste deLaney Tue, 18 Oct 2011 18:02:11 +0000 http://laurabhorwitz.com/roadnottaken/?p=103#comment-53 First, I don't normally read memoirs, but I loved the opening of yours. Second...how's that novella coming :P First, I don’t normally read memoirs, but I loved the opening of yours. Second…how’s that novella coming :P

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Comment on Top 20 Stupid Tourist Questions & Comments from Around the World by Chris Werner http://laurabhorwitz.com/roadnottaken/2011/08/24/top-20-stupid-tourist-questions-comments-from-around-the-world/#comment-51 Chris Werner Wed, 12 Oct 2011 06:11:24 +0000 http://laurabhorwitz.com/roadnottaken/?p=89#comment-51 Laura- I've had my own list floating around in my head over the years. Nice to hear yours. And thanks for keeping the interesting list of topics rolling :) C. Laura- I’ve had my own list floating around in my head over the years. Nice to hear yours. And thanks for keeping the interesting list of topics rolling :)
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Comment on Ugly People Need Not Apply… by courtney http://laurabhorwitz.com/roadnottaken/2011/09/27/ugly-people-need-not-apply/#comment-44 courtney Wed, 28 Sep 2011 07:32:42 +0000 http://laurabhorwitz.com/roadnottaken/?p=96#comment-44 I think they should be able to have their site. It's better that way. It weeds out the people that are mainly focused on physical traits. I believe the members of that site are probably very insecure and may feel the need for validation. They need to be working on their inner beauty because in the end that is what shows. I think they should be able to have their site.
It’s better that way.
It weeds out the people that are mainly focused on physical traits.
I believe the members of that site are probably very insecure and may feel the need for validation. They need to be working on their inner beauty because in the end that is what shows.

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Comment on Ugly People Need Not Apply… by Greg http://laurabhorwitz.com/roadnottaken/2011/09/27/ugly-people-need-not-apply/#comment-43 Greg Tue, 27 Sep 2011 22:39:04 +0000 http://laurabhorwitz.com/roadnottaken/?p=96#comment-43 It actually reminds me of the website hotornot.com, where people rate the attractiveness of others on a scale from 1-10, based on a picture. I think most people out there have a compulsion to know if the world thinks they are attractive or not, as all we have to go on most of the time is our own opinion (which can be misleading for many reasons) and what our friends and loved ones say (which is biased and often altered for our own protection). It's not often that we get a truly unfiltered and unbiased opinion of our attractiveness to others, and in a strange way, the fact that the judging is done by anonymous people helps cushion the blow and make it easier. So on the one hand I can understand why people would want to join this site - we all need a little affirmation, no matter how shallow, from time to time - and yet it all just leaves me with a bad taste in my mouth and feels like the setup for a bad sci-fi movie about the perils of a vain and shallow society. Would I ever join? Not to find someone I would actually want to date long-term, no. It's like going to an ultra-trendy and exclusive club to find a deep and meaningful relationship - right idea, wrong venue. It actually reminds me of the website hotornot.com, where people rate the attractiveness of others on a scale from 1-10, based on a picture. I think most people out there have a compulsion to know if the world thinks they are attractive or not, as all we have to go on most of the time is our own opinion (which can be misleading for many reasons) and what our friends and loved ones say (which is biased and often altered for our own protection). It’s not often that we get a truly unfiltered and unbiased opinion of our attractiveness to others, and in a strange way, the fact that the judging is done by anonymous people helps cushion the blow and make it easier.

So on the one hand I can understand why people would want to join this site – we all need a little affirmation, no matter how shallow, from time to time – and yet it all just leaves me with a bad taste in my mouth and feels like the setup for a bad sci-fi movie about the perils of a vain and shallow society.

Would I ever join? Not to find someone I would actually want to date long-term, no. It’s like going to an ultra-trendy and exclusive club to find a deep and meaningful relationship – right idea, wrong venue.

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Comment on Ugly People Need Not Apply… by Seleste deLaney http://laurabhorwitz.com/roadnottaken/2011/09/27/ugly-people-need-not-apply/#comment-42 Seleste deLaney Tue, 27 Sep 2011 21:31:11 +0000 http://laurabhorwitz.com/roadnottaken/?p=96#comment-42 The Mensa comparison is just something a pretty, but stupid person would throw out there. Mensa uses an IQ test which is a measurable Intelligence Quotient. Though one could argue that it's flawed, it is a very objective test. Beauty, as they say, is in the eye of the beholder. As you said, that one couple hooked up before she was booted for not meeting the very subjective definition of beauty set by the owners of the site. What I find beautiful and what someone else finds beautiful are not necessarily the same. For example, based on their "no fatties" attitude, I'm willing to hazard a guess that there are a lot of men and women there I would find unattractive because they are TOO thin for my tastes. I would be too fat for the site, I'm quite sure. *shrug* As for whether or not I'd join? Hell no (okay, maybe on a dare, but if by some weird virus-y glitch I got in, I'd quit LOL). I've had my share of "pretty boys" and really they're over-rated. I'd rather look for more "quality" qualities than just physical appearance. The Mensa comparison is just something a pretty, but stupid person would throw out there. Mensa uses an IQ test which is a measurable Intelligence Quotient. Though one could argue that it’s flawed, it is a very objective test. Beauty, as they say, is in the eye of the beholder. As you said, that one couple hooked up before she was booted for not meeting the very subjective definition of beauty set by the owners of the site. What I find beautiful and what someone else finds beautiful are not necessarily the same. For example, based on their “no fatties” attitude, I’m willing to hazard a guess that there are a lot of men and women there I would find unattractive because they are TOO thin for my tastes. I would be too fat for the site, I’m quite sure. *shrug*

As for whether or not I’d join? Hell no (okay, maybe on a dare, but if by some weird virus-y glitch I got in, I’d quit LOL). I’ve had my share of “pretty boys” and really they’re over-rated. I’d rather look for more “quality” qualities than just physical appearance.

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Comment on Does Your Sexual Experience Affect Your Relationships? by Gloria http://laurabhorwitz.com/roadnottaken/2011/09/14/does-your-sexual-experience-affect-your-relationships/#comment-38 Gloria Thu, 15 Sep 2011 09:32:09 +0000 http://laurabhorwitz.com/roadnottaken/?p=94#comment-38 I think that if you have too many it looks like you can't commit to one person or you are flighty, promiscuous or Have a sex addiction.I think is it turn off as it could show lack of commitment to long term meaningful relashionships. I think that if you have too many it looks like you can’t commit to one person or you are flighty, promiscuous or Have a sex addiction.I think is it turn off as it could show lack of commitment to long term meaningful relashionships.

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